How Deleting Social Media Changed My Life

If you’ve been feeling a little off lately, scrolling more, thinking more, trusting yourself less, this one’s for you sis!!!!!!

In this episode, I’m sharing what happened in the land of Millie when I deleted social media… and why it changed way more than just my screen time.

We’re talking about what it looks like to get quiet enough to hear your own body again.
 This is how you start trusting yourself again.

 Most women aren’t disconnected because they’re broken.
 They’re disconnected because they’re overstimulated.

And your body is talking but YOU AIN'T LISTENING HONEY

Inside this episode:

•  What shifted (mentally + physically) when I got off social media 
•  Why constant input blocks your intuition (and what to do about it) 
•  The connection between your nervous system, pelvic floor, and emotional health 
•  How to start hearing your inner voice again
•  Simple, realistic ways to build self-care into your day (especially if you’re a mom or busy) 

We also get into what real self-care actually looks like (hint: it’s not more stuff), and how to create a life where you feel clear, grounded, and like yourself again.

And if you’ve been craving a space like that, this is exactly why we created Core Girls Club.

Coregirlsclub.com

I got you 🤍

Send me a DM on Instoooosh @milliedpt or email me at milliedpt@gmail.com

I love to know who I'm talking to!

Transcript

I deleted Instagram from my phone for three months and it actually changed my life. I was literally pulling up to the airport with my husband about to go on a ski trip without the kids and I just deleted it along with TikTok and Facebook and I did not realize at the time that it was going to change the way I think, the way I treat my patients, the way I show up as a mother and honestly how I see all of you too.

Hey guys and welcome back to What They Didn't Tell You From Core to Floor. And wow, it's been crazy. Like I haven't posted an episode in forever. As you may or may not know, there was a really long war. And you know, everything kind of got paused and it's totally good. The next season is gonna be coming out soon, but this is a crazy comeback episode, so.

Stay tuned, it's pretty quick and I cannot wait to hear what you think.

We were going on a ski trip without the kids and I just remember like in past years I would bring my phone to the spa after a long day of skiing and I would just like sit and scroll and when you sit and scroll you're like lying to yourself and telling yourself that you're relaxing but really you're sitting and dysregulating your nervous system and subconsciously absorbing all of this messaging that at the end of the day doesn't always make you feel so good about yourself like how many times did you sign off of Instagram and be like I feel so good now.

And some of the things that I personally deal with when I scroll, well past tense, scrolled, is that I'm not only watching videos, but in my mind, like I'm watching videos of people in my niche or similar niches. And in the back of my mind, I'm like, how can I make this video better than that? How can I do it from my page so that my audience relates to it? And I got very caught up in this game of trying to figure out how I could one up everyone or make it adaptable for me.

And really, really, really at the end of the day, all I need to do is follow my authentic voice and I know that I'll stand out to people that need to hear the message that I need to convey. And I think I woke up very late to the game of realizing that social media and the news are designed to keep you addicted, like the news reel keeps you in fear of coming back and you keep coming back and consuming more.

and social media gives you dopamine hits so you keep coming back like you're getting likes and comments and new followers and all these things and it's instant gratification and like you're just always running back for and literally like it changes the way your brain is wired like I remember after I was off these apps for a while I'm still on YouTube conformed consuming some long term long term

long form content mostly she really listening to like Rye Wiser inspirational speaker speakers speak talk but

I came across a video that was talking about like all the ways that the neurons and hormones and neurotransmitters in your brain change when you go on short form content, be it, you know, Instagram, things like that. And I was like, dude, I didn't even need you to tell me this. Like I experienced it firsthand. And it's so crazy. Like once I deleted these apps off my phone, I could, I promise you, like I told my husband after not even 24 hours, I was like, I

feel so different. And I started leaning into this idea like without watching the news and without like checking socials like I know and I trust that any information that I need to find out will come to me. Like a lot of people, but I tell them that I deleted social, their first reaction was like, my god, when I learn all these new things, blah, blah, blah. I'm like, I know, great. Okay. I just think that I'll learn the things I need to learn in other ways. Like I just

put into the university i believe that it will come to me if it's to come to me and if it's not not you could disagree with me it's totally fine but my life is super great this new one different mindset and and a lot of creators and not calling anyone out but think a lot of creators cuz i'm one of them like i was brainwashed to think like i need to be the answer for people but at the end of the day we all have answers inside of us and

I truly believe that the messages that I have to share are deeply important and I want to connect with my audience in a meaningful way. I don't need to grow my account anymore. Like thank God I so many followers. Like it's actually mind blowing. And my goal is really just like I want to connect with the people that are currently here and I want women to know that they don't need to chase anything to be enough. They don't need to chase financial status.

set their table in a certain way, dress their kids a certain way, do a certain thing to be enough. Like just by being, you are enough. You exist, you are enough. And that's like one of the biggest things I need to hear and one of the biggest things all of my patients and people in my life need to hear. Like I think we just all need to hear it. And we're doing enough. Like you're worthy, you're there. Why do you need to do all these external things? Like start a podcast.

But anyway, what I didn't understand back then is that my voice is enough and I couldn't hear it. I was so distracted by all the excess noise. It killed my creativity. I couldn't come up with any content because I was just watching all this other stuff. I couldn't hear myself think. And now that I don't have the external noise of all these apps,

I'm able to hear my internal voice a lot louder because I'm not hearing all this messaging from other people's opinions and it's actually kind of crazy like I don't know anything that's trending or any of the major news that's going on right now because I'm just in my own world and there's so many times where I want to look something up and I just stop myself and I'm like

wait what do you think the answer is and you sit in the boredom and the silence and the answer actually comes to you

Like try it, please next time you want to Google something, just ask yourself what you think the answer is. And it comes. Your internal voice just gets louder. And we're so used to outsourcing this and turning to channels like social media for the answer or just subliminally like consuming the information and then like using that as the answer. I'm not saying like every single thing online is evil.

But like sometimes it's just not your truth. Like I'm just really speaking from my own experience where I adopted certain opinions and adopted them as the truth. And then I realized like, wow, that really doesn't align with me. So now I have this problem because I want to come back to Instagram, but I don't want to be a part of the noise. My entire mission is to empower women to feel safe and empowered in their bodies. And I said empowered twice, but it is what it is. And to

themselves first and I don't want to be part of the problem that's telling women, oh, here's another thing you need to do, here's another thing you need to add to your list and I refuse to be another voice saying like, here's what you're doing wrong. But like, I'm honestly the CEO of the company of putting myself first. And for some reason, like a lot of women's put their kids first and they think it's great and healthy. But at the end of the day, like I don't understand how you can functionally take care of yourself and your kids if you're not

doing you and you know for a long time I struggled like I thought there was something wrong with me like am I selfish like what's going on but really like I know that I'm doing this best for me and my family and like I myself who is a professional at putting myself first like I still feel like I need more support like listen I moved to Israel with a two-year-old and a five-month-old and I don't have a much immediate family here my husband has two brothers I live in the north but we have to like go out of our way to make plans to see each other

but like I know that I may be talking to women right now have less resources than me, like childcare, money, job flexibility, all these things that really do make a difference. And I'm telling you like, okay, here, like add another thing to your list. Like do self care, blah, blah, blah. Do these things when I give all my Instagram tips, but like when you put yourself first, you're pulling from a full cup and then

else just feels so much better and you don't get burnt out. Like, that's the answer. Like you want to know how I do it all, quote unquote, I don't actually do it all have a lot of help. But the reason why like it looks like I do it all and I actually, you know, feel like I have it together is because I put myself first.

And everything else just feels like way less of a burden because of it. It's not because I have so many more resources like I have a sister who lives in New York and my mom is at her house every single day.

And like, I wish I had that. Like, I would cry for that. But like, I don't have that. I don't have every single resource in the world. And I think I felt self-conscious for a while to talk about like, how I put myself first, because I was scared it would come off as like, my God, but like, you're so entitled that you can do that. Like, no, I actually think everyone can do it in their own way. And you'll just feel less burnt out about all the other things after. You're still going to have all your other responsibilities.

on top of it, yes, but it's not really on top of it. It's just going to feel so much better because you're taking care of yourself.

So now I'm here and I'm like this new version of me and I don't want to make any woman feel like they have another thing to add to the list and I don't ever, God forbid, want to make someone feel like they're lacking something or like I'm preaching to them because like I have it all figured out. We're just all at very different points in our life paths and I do believe that part of my mission in this space is to help women uncover their personal truth.

and to give you like a little bit of an example here like something interesting about being physical therapist is that i treat a lot of pain and dysfunction that's my jam that's what i do for a living and at the end of the day i think anyone who actually understands the human body and psyche understands that pain and dysfunction is basically our body telling us that something is off in another realm whether that's emotional spiritual and when you ignore it for long enough it ends up manifesting physically

And, or in other situations like trauma, it could be that it happens right away, right? It doesn't have to always be a buildup. Sometimes it is right away, but I'm gonna give you an example. like prolapse, pelvic organ prolapse is one of your organs, like your bladder, your uterus, and your rectum, or sometimes the vaginal wall itself is lacking support physically and it starts to descend towards either the vaginal or rectal opening. And a lot of what I do is I have to figure out, you know, what exactly is going on in the body. And depending on what we're finding in the body, we can try to figure out

what kind of support someone feels like they're lacking. And it's actually a very interesting detective piece because we see that there is something emotional going on and it may be manifesting as this physical prolapse. And then we do things, you know, physically to the body to help it have more support being by relaxing muscles, down training the nervous system, teaching them better pressure management.

skills, which doesn't mean pressure in your life, it means pressure in your body and how you hold your breath and don't hold your breath. And at the end of the day, when we work on all these things, we see emotional patterns of feeling unsupported clear up by the end of treatment. Why

am I talking about this? Because once I got off of social, it allowed me to tap into this skill that I knew I was predisposed to, but didn't quite know how to, you know, use it.

I was able to tap into it a much deeper level and hold space for my patients a lot differently. Like I feel like I have a bit more and I'm still working on this, but like a therapeutic presence when someone walks in, like they'll actually feel a bit more, you know, safe and held and you know, that's just like what I want for everyone. Like that's what I would want as a patient. And at the end of the day, you got to do what you got to do. And I'm by no means like.

preaching that you should delete Instagram. I'm not I mean, I do I do recommend it at least for a period of time. And I'm not sure how and when I'm coming back, I have that on like really like figuring it out trying to get a manager and all these things. Because I really don't want to physically be on the app so much other than like answering messages to my to my peeps. But yeah, it was just like a really good form of self care and putting myself first. And I think like I spoke a lot about

put in myself first and I don't want to leave you hanging on like, okay, so like, what does that mean? What do I actually do? like, I feel like a lot of what I said just sounds good in theory, but like, okay, like, what, like, what do we do with this? I'm like, you're probably like tired, feeling like you're pulled in a lot of directions and like, it's just really hard. Like we can't do it all. We can't balance it all. We can't juggle it all. But I do recommend putting yourself first because it helps a heck of a lot. like,

you know, not to sound like I'm tooting my own horn, but you know, I took all of this messaging that was super frustrating for women. I just seen a woman that walks into my clinic says like, can't believe I'm finally here. I'm finally doing it. I'm finally taking care of me. And it's like about time, you know, like, I wanted to make that more accessible.

And that's why I created the Core Girls Club with Zoe. You've probably heard us talking about it on other episodes or if you're getting our emails or on social. It's basically an online program that helps you strengthen your core, feel better in your body, also look better in your body. And that's a huge part of it. All of that stuff is super important. And I'm not even talking about the physical benefits right now. But the point of the program for me when I created it with Zoe was

We want to give you a space where you're actually practicing choosing yourself in a way that it's actually going to happen 10 to 20 minutes, to three days a week. Very, very, very doable, like for the busy mom, for the mom with the busy schedule. And it's something that

you can come back to consistently with support, structure, accountability, because the truth is, like, I don't think we need more information. I think we do to a degree, but like,

there's overload at a certain point. And listen, like, obviously, you're listening to this podcast for information, and you're like going on my social media page for information to my website for more information, like, but I'm also being so cautious right now when I don't have it figured out, like, I really want to give you information without making you feel like you don't have the answers. And like, you need to like add something else to your

to do list, like it really is something I'm struggling with. And like, that's what this is in the core girls club, like we're using your body as the entry point. When you feel stronger and more connected and more at home in yourself, it becomes so much easier to hear your own voice again. Where am I pushing too hard? Where am I not pushing enough? Like you have a body, right? Like we're all pieces of a collective consciousness, like floating around this earth. And we didn't have to have bodies.

to this. Like we could have been clouds interacting with one another, but God gave us bodies and so we have to figure out what to do with that. And there's so much wisdom in it. And I just want to teach you how to do it because it sounds so lofty and crazy. But it's not like we literally have a six week program that teaches you this. And if I could just like give this gift to you, or rather you give this gift to yourself.

I want to see your life change and I want to see you tell me how grateful you are that you gave it to yourself. So like if you're listening to this and something clicks and you're like, okay, like this is what I've been missing. Like then you're exactly who it's for. Like I really need you to understand that like you're not behind, you're not lacking, you're not missing something. You're literally just not listening to yourself. You have all of it. And that's the real work. Listen to yourself. And as a physical therapist, I'm using the entry way.

I'm using the body as an entryway. if this spoke to you and you're with me and Zoe and you want to join the core girls club, I would love to have you inside. More details in the link

That's coregirlsclub.com, coregirlsclub.com. Get it in your head. It's just coregirlsclub.com. Check it out.

and I really can't wait to talk to you and come back to social media and you know, please send me a message on Instagram or email and I'm

Just happy to connect with all you guys, like I really miss you. I've been in my cocoon and I just can't wait for more.

If you like this episode, don't be a stranger. Rate it five stars right now. Stop what you're doing, do it right now. Send it to all your friends that need to hear this. And stay tuned because the season is coming out. It's something unlike anything we've ever done before. We have a lot of different guests, a lot of variety, and you guys are going to love it. Okay, now get off your phone and go be in your body. Love you, bye.