Stop Doing, Just BE

Life has been chaotic — war, travel, motherhood, work, and everything in between. But through it all, one thing has kept Dr. Millie grounded: movement. In this heartfelt solo episode, she opens up about finding peace in the chaos, reconnecting with her body, and realizing that sometimes… we don’t need more self-help, we just need to be.

Tune in as she shares how fitness became her anchor through unpredictable seasons, why too much “growth content” can disconnect us from our intuition, and how returning to your body may be the quietest yet most powerful form of healing.

If you’ve been craving calm, clarity, and connection this one’s for you.

Mentioned in this episode:

• The power of movement for mental and emotional balance
• Why consuming less self-help might actually help you more
• How to reconnect with your body and breath through the Core Connection Challenge

Join the Free 5-Day Core Connection Challenge to start reconnecting with your body today.

Links:

Follow Millie:  @milliedpt 

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[00:00:00] You probably clicked play because you felt like you needed some background noise or maybe you were hoping to learn something or feel a little bit less alone. And I get that. I drew that too. But we're gonna talk about all of this in today's episode. Welcome back to what they didn't tell you from court of floor.

It's your girl doctor Milli struck pelvic floor therapist here to teach you everything you need to know about your body today is. Another solo episode, and then next week we go back to regular programming with Zoe Corin. I just wanna be honest with you guys, life has been so chaotic lately. I've been thinking about it and my life just hasn't been on a normal schedule since before the war with Iran in June because immediately after the airports opened, I was in deal New Jersey treating patients, which is not my real life, although I did, we did have some sort of routine coming on there, and then we took the kids to Greece and then [00:01:00] we came back home to Israel where.

The kids were starting school and you start, you know, a new routine with them. And then it was the holidays for a month and then all of a sudden holidays ended. I had like a week of my routine and boom, family emergency. I ended up in New York for a week and then came back, recovered for a couple days, and then my parents came to Israel to visit, which obviously puts us out of routine, so.

Right now, I wouldn't wanna jinx it, but it's the, I'm actually like literally recording this the day before it comes out. Like this is the first time I'm actually in a routine. That's my real life since June. So I'm very excited to get back to everything, but there's like a reason why I feel fine about it, and there's a reason why.

Even though it's chaotic, like I actually do feel pretty grounded through it. You know, there's work, there's motherhood, and there's like all these things, [00:02:00] but one thing that's been my constant is fitness. I have not missed. A day. I don't think I've missed like days during this whole thing. Maybe when we were away in Greece, I missed a bit.

We were only there for a few days and I was chasing my kids the entire time. But like during Iran, when the gyms were closed, I got my workouts in, I bought weights right when everything started, and I started going for walks around my block with a weighted vest because there were no gyms available when.

I was in deal for the summer. I signed up for a gym there and I went running and I did my thing and I was totally on board. And throughout the holidays I was signed up for workouts and holidays actually fell out really great this year. So I wasn't, I, I wasn't really like missing so many days. You know what?

I don't think they actually did fall out great this year, but still, I really didn't miss days. Also, here in Israel, everything's like one day instead of two. So yeah, I was pretty solid and I feel really good about it. I just wanna mention like what. Kept me going. So last year [00:03:00] I'm signed up for like a regular gym, really nice gym, like Israel's version of Equinox.

I mean, if you could compare, um, you know, really nice locker rooms, a gym and like a whole thing. It was super nice. And the only issue with a gym like that is that no one's calling you to come. And then, you know, I started going to classes here and there just to like socialize and you're signed up for something, like you have to go to it.

So I started. Realizing over the summer when I was in deal, that was also like the kind of thing I needed to be signed up for. Like I'm so consistent, like I'm not missing. Any days like, yeah, there's periods of my life where I'm like self-motivated for like a year straight and then like the second I got hit with like a cold or something and then I'm like, oh, I'm not feeling well.

I don't wanna go back yet. Like no one's calling me to come back when it really is time for me to come back. And what I've changed now is that I'm signed up for a couple of gyms actually, where I have memberships and I could go to X amount of classes a week. And that's been keeping me super consistent and I've [00:04:00] been able to build strength and consistency.

And really my point is consistency with fitness is what helped me stay grounded when everything else around me was not. When there was a war and travel and change of scenery and a family emergency and my parents come to visit like all these things, holidays, like there's such big distractions that take you out of your routine, but my fitness dust continued and I'm just so grateful that I have this.

I take fitness extremely, extremely seriously. I've had a period of my life where I've always been into fitness, right? But when I, there was a period where like it was, um, my baby, my oldest, he was. Five-ish months old and I went back to full-time work and there just wasn't like a good enough pocket for me to get the workout in because of like, just not a good overlap of having help in the morning and, um, leaving to [00:05:00] work.

Like I just didn't have help in that pocket. And I like built a whole at home gym and I was like, yeah, when in the morning, like, I'll work out before I, before I go to work, but like my kid would always wake up. It was like just never happening. I felt like such a failure couldn't work out at home. After work because I was so exhausted and now like ever since then, I'm like, oh, I get to work out.

'cause I had like, I don't know, like seven months of my life where like maybe even more where like I just wasn't working out consistently. And now it's like, oh my gosh, I get to work out. What a privilege. Like I get to clear my mind, connect my body, come home to myself, connect to my breath, feel myself move, feel what it just feels like to exist.

My body and it's just so yummy and delicious and there's just nothing like it. Like let's put aesthetics aside, which I think is valid, but health side, which is super important, but just like for mental clarity. And I also dealt with prenatal, postpartum anxiety, depression, like I always talk [00:06:00] about it. And I was medicated for a time, and I think the only reason why I am not on anything right now is because I'm consistent with my movement.

There's so many other things I do to keep my mental health in check, but the movement for me personally is obviously this is not medical advice if you need to be medicated for anxiety and depression. I think that's great. I think you should be. I think you should also move though. I think you should also move.

I think you should get your sunlight, your walks, good nutrition, your fitness. It should be such a priority if you are struggling with any mental health, if your fitness should be a priority. I cannot even tell you the difference that it makes in my life and in millions of other lives of people that have.

Stories like this, so I just wanted to share that with you because there's nothing like coming home to your body and just having that time to pause and be with yourself when everything else around you is just so crazy and not in your control. What you can control is your decisions, and you can make a [00:07:00] decision that you're saying no to other things, right?

I'm waking. Earlier than I'd like to, like losing out on sleep, losing out on spending time with my kids early in the morning. Like I leave early while one of them is still kind of home and not in school yet. And that's just a decision that I make. Not something you have to do, but I'm just sharing what I do and there's gonna be like things, you know, things that you compromise on to make fitness a priority, but for me it's like super, super important.

Spend time with my kids the whole entire afternoon. So we're good. I'm happy and my cup is filled, and my mental health is great instead of what I used to be, and it just works. You're gonna just learn to find your. Balance and all of this of like coming home to myself through movement also got me thinking about something that I've been wanting to address on the show here.

This is like a very personal note, which is listening to podcasts, listening to audio books, self-help kind of things. Like I'm always getting [00:08:00] notifications about like, unlock your power, follow your dreams. Like I don't know if there's any other people. That are like me and have like similar algorithms to me, like all psychology things and I don't know, self-help, like all these self-help things always popping up on my feed, email, marketing, things that I'm subscribed to, like it's just so in my face.

And I had a point in my life where I was like, I need to work on myself and I need to listen. And I'm always like trying to heal from something and trying to listen to a class and then try to like make it part of my life. I've come to a point. Where I realize that cell, Ricky, you're Ricky, you're screaming, sorry, my husband just got home.

We're gonna edit that out. It's come to a point where I'm like, this amount of self-help is toxic. Talking about like, sorry, edit this, please. Consuming too much growth content can disconnect us from who we really are. Podcasts, [00:09:00] books, courses, Instagram pages, they're all amazing tools, but they can easily, easily become a distraction from your own intuition.

And I'll even share like a personal example, before I ever had kids, I was like super excited to be a mom, which is so funny because whatever story for another time. But, um, I listen to every parenting podcast. I read so many books. I follow all the Instagram pages. Like I just wanted to know everything.

'cause I could see that raising kids is really hard and I was like, I'm gonna be the best mom 'cause I'm so prepared. 'cause I read all the things I actually do think I'm a great mom. And it's not because I did any of that, it's because I chalked it all out the window and I just do. My own thing. Basically all that noise was, all that noise was disconnected me from my own inner voice and my own intuition.

And it's like come to a point where like I'll be in a situation with my kid and I'm like hearing that inner voice and it's like not even my voice. It's like something I read on the [00:10:00] internet or something I listen to and it's like, okay, we need to stop doing this because I have a lot of the tools to be a mother inside me and I need to just.

B and stop consuming. So I actually completely stopped consuming motherhood stuff and like parenting stuff, I only listen to professionals that know me and my kids personally. And that's just one example of growth content and disconnecting us from who we are. I actually spoke to someone super intuitive recently and they were just sharing with me how.

Everything is inside of me and not me. I mean like all of us, like every, a lot of everything is inside of us and like just stop trying to work on yourself. You're like already good and like lean into all of what you have and stop looking outward for it. And then you'll realize that you don't need to keep on reading all these books about [00:11:00] self-help and growth.

I mean, obviously. A religious Orthodox Jew. I learn, I love learning sha, I love learning all these things. Like that's really what's connecting us to our intuition and to our source. Not like these outside. Things that are just like kind of making us feel like we're not good enough. Like we always have like something more to strive to that's like not our source.

So I like stop listening to podcasts on walks, unless it's a class like Aharon class, if you're Jewish and you know what that is. But it's a book about like strengthening your faith and belief in God, really not belief. Sorry, I'm gonna go back for a second. Edit this. Like I used to listen to self-help podcasts on all of my walks.

Don't do that anymore. Now I listen to. Nothing. I listen to the birds chirping their crickets at night. I listen to my breath or I put on shahan, which is like a Jewish text that I enjoy learning, which is about connecting us to our source and our intuition. So I try not to like listen to all this self-help [00:12:00] stuff 'cause it's actually not grounding me.

And maybe you're like feeling the same, like maybe it's time to scale back. I'm noticing that when I'm not trying to consume. I'm just experiencing, I'm in my body more and not in my head, and I don't know how to explain this in better words, but like when we're in our body and not our head, that's actually a.

Where we are. I can actually explain it like from a more scientific perspective, which is we have a vagus nerve, which is a nerve that regulates our sympathetic and parasympathetic nervous system, so like fight or flight versus rest and digest. And it has fibers that go up and down. Okay? The fibers that go up go from our body to our brain, and the fibers that go down go from our brain to our body.

Did you know that 80% of the fibers in this nerve go from the body to the brain? Meaning when you quiet the body, you can quiet the brain much quicker than if you quiet the brain. Quiet the body, meaning you could do something in your body. [00:13:00] So be it fitness or just like being present in your body and trying to be not always be doing.

That can actually quiet your mind because you're working on your body. 'cause the vagus nerve works 80% from the bottom to the top. So when I am consistent with fitness, I can actually hear my inner intuition again. It's like turning down the volume on the world and turning up my own signal. And it's just been really great for my nervous system regulation.

Also, obviously like the exercise choice and selection that I have is gonna affect that as well. 'cause it's like a pretty well-rounded routine I would say. But. Like, I think if I were to give you any other self-help tip, it's just breathe, move and be, just be like, stop doing so much. Stop trying to be someone that you're not.

Stop trying to strive for something. Like look inward, see who really are, what's your essence? In Judaism, we call it our [00:14:00] Nisha Ma or our Soul. 'cause that's who you are inside and. Just freaking be like, just be you. Stop listening to all these things. It's like it's noise, it's garbage when at a certain point, like it really becomes toxic.

So if you're in a season of chaos, I just want you to know you don't need more information. You probably just need to touch grass. Put your feet on the ground. Take a deep breath, and remember that everything that you have. Sorry, and remember that you already have what you need inside of you. I'm sorry if it's so like actually cliche, but like it's so true.

And movement might actually be the doorway back to that quiet wisdom that we have inside of us. And if you are listening to this right now and you are like craving that reconnection, I invite you to check out our free five day core connection challenge because this is something that is gonna teach you about not doing more.

It's more [00:15:00] about coming back to your body and your breath. So the link for it is gonna be in the show notes, and I'm very excited to hear what you think of this episode. I'm very excited to be back with Zoe. We're actually recording tomorrow, I believe, for the rest of the episodes of this season, I hope.

And yeah, stay tuned. There's so much good stuff going on right now. I hope you're getting my emails, and if you're not getting my emails, just sign up for the core connection Challenge because then you'll get my emails. There's a lot of really cool value and things coming to anyone who's receiving those.

A lot of crazy good information that I don't give on a podcast and I don't give. Um, on Instagram. 'cause there's just so many places and things and times I can say stuff. So anyway, I'm rambling. Have a great rest of your day. Send this to your friends. Rate it five stars, leave a review. I love you so much.