What They Didn’t Tell You: From Core to Floor
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What They Didn’t Tell You: From Core to Floor
G-Spots, Squirting & Overstimulation — Let's Get Into It
Welcome back to another juicy episode of What They Didn’t Tell You: From Core to Floor!
In this no-holds-barred Q&A, Dr. Millie Schweky is joined again by sex coach Galya Falkson to pull back the curtain on the biggest mysteries in female pleasure: squirting and the G-spot.
In this episode, we dive into:
- What squirting really is (hint: it’s not pee... but maybe a little?)
- The truth about the G-spot and how it’s actually just clitoral stimulation from the inside
- Why pleasure doesn’t depend on fluid and why orgasm does not equal ejaculation
- How your pelvic floor plays a major role in what you feel (or don’t)
- The difference between peeing during sex and squirting and how to tell
- Why tight isn’t always right: the Goldilocks rule for pelvic muscles
- How pressure to “perform” can actually shut down pleasure
If you’ve ever wondered “am I doing this right?” or felt like your body isn’t following the script you were taught. This episode is full of the science, validation, and real talk you should’ve gotten in sex ed.
Not safe for little ears… pop in your headphones for this one!
Links:
Better Sex Online Program: https://millie-schweky.mykajabi.com/intimacy
Galya Falkson: https://galyafalkson.com/
Connect on IG: @milliedpt | @galyafalkson
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[Dr. Millie Schweky]
Today is super spicy. We're going to get into what they never told you about squirting and the mystery that is the G-spot.
Okay, Galya, here's the first question. Someone asked, what is squirting? And does the pelvic floor have anything to do with this? I'd love to hear your take.
[Galya Falkson]
Goodness, so many people have such funny ideas when it comes to squirting. And there's so many studies that have been done on it. And yet there's still debate about exactly where the fluid is made and, you know, what's happening. But what we have seen in science is that squirting is a release of fluid from the Skene's glands. So it's actually right by the urethra. So oftentimes people think that it's pee, but it's actually a different fluid from the Skene's glands. And sometimes it's a lot of liquid and sometimes it's less. And we, based on the research out there, we actually don't know if every vulva is capable of squirting.
[Dr. Millie Schweky]
So for those that don't know, like back it up. What is squirt? Like what is that?
[Galya Falkson]
So it's actually, it's sometimes called the female ejaculation. So the fluid is expelled from the urethra during arousal or orgasm. So it actually could come out not during an orgasm entirely. It doesn't have to happen during orgasm. It could actually happen during arousal as well. And sometimes it's a lot of fluid being ejaculated and sometimes it's less fluid. And that's why some people think, oh no, it's pee because it's coming through the urethra.
But it's actually the Skene's glands, which is right by the opening of the urethra. So a lot of people think that in order to have an orgasm, they need to have this ejaculation the same way a man has an ejaculation when he has an orgasm. But it actually doesn't mean that it's going to be more pleasurable. So a woman can squirt without orgasming and she can also orgasm without squirting. So she doesn't actually need to release any fluid in order to have an orgasm. And the fluid itself doesn't necessarily mean that it's more pleasurable if she does have that squirt.
[Dr. Millie Schweky]
In your clinical experience, do women report any pleasure with squirting? Some say that only happens because they're having a more intense orgasm. But again, it's so varied. It really isn't that specific.
[Galya Falkson]
I wouldn't say that it is specific to squirting that there is more pleasure. There's multiple ways to increase that pleasure and have a more intense orgasm when squirting is completely not involved in that.
[Dr. Millie Schweky]
Okay, interesting. And you said it's not urine, but we thought it was urine. And then they realised what the scientists did a study. I saw crazy stuff. I mean, there were pictures. It was graphic. Are you familiar? I forgot the name of the author. But there was a study that they basically like had a woman who were squirting and they like took the sample and they were like, okay, is that they tested it? Like, is it urine? What is it? And I can't remember exactly, but I think they may have found urine in it because it was just next to the urethra. So what urine just got mixed into it. But like when someone squirts, are they peeing? Like I have a lot of patients that tell me, I think I'm peeing while I'm having sex. And I'm like, are you squirting because it's different? Or maybe it's not different? You tell me.
[Galya Falkson]
So it's not. It's different in that it's not coming from your bladder. It's coming from the Skene's glands. So yes, there is urine mixed in with it because it is coming from the urethra. The urethra, it's hard to explain without actually showing you, but the urethra has the Skene's glands like at the opening. So that build up of fluid is coming from that gland. But because it's the urethra, there will be some urine in it. And sometimes because there's the pressure of pushing, sorry, not pushing, the release of that orgasm that can then trigger a little bit of urine to come out at the same time. But it's all part of the experience. And I think if anyone's afraid of the urine coming out with the fluid of the ejaculation, and then they actually suppress their pleasure in order to not have that, I would say no. This is a part of your experience. It's totally normal. It's totally healthy. There's nothing wrong with the urine coming out at the same time as well. Not entirely urine, but mostly the fluid from the Skene's glands. It's hard to explain without showing you.
[Dr. Millie Schweky]
I totally hear you. I just try to explain to patients when they're like, oh, am I peeing during intercourse? I'm like, is it a few drops or are you fully emptying your bladder? Does it feel the same as when you're sitting on a toilet or peeing? Or are you just noticing that it's a little wet down there? It could be your natural lubrication combined with quote-unquote whatever this phenomenon is that we call squirting. And you can.
[Galya Falkson]
Some ladies do find that once they've squirted, there is a release also of urine. When you asked the question, you said, does this have anything to do with your pelvic floor? Of course it does. The pelvic floor definitely plays a role as the muscles surround the urethra and the vaginal canal. So they're involved in orgasm. They're involved in your bladder control. They're involved in sensation. All those muscles are important to your experience. So you know from your experience with your clients that if those muscles are too tense or too weak, it will actually affect their ability to experience pleasure or in this case, actually release that fluid. So strengthening your pelvic floor or relaxing your pelvic floor might be the key into being able to squirt. And you will notice a difference in that sensation of this is definitely pee. And there's the squirting, which could feel a little bit like pee because it's coming from the same place. But there's a difference between actually emptying your bladder and that initial squirting.
[Dr. Millie Schweky]
So anything that has to do with sexual function and the pelvic floor, I call it the Goldilocks rule. If your pelvic floor muscles are too tight, things can hurt. Things could be dysfunctional. And when things are hypotonic, meaning the muscles have too low of a tone, then other issues can arise.
[Galya Falkson]
Yeah, and that’s why I always say, it’s not about striving to squirt, it’s about staying present in your body and experiencing what feels good. Because when we chase orgasm or chase squirting, it can take us out of the moment. The pelvic floor plays a role, sure—but more than that, it’s about allowing your body to do what it wants to do when it feels safe and aroused.
[Dr. Millie Schweky]
Exactly. And that’s the thing with the pelvic floor—people often assume “tight is right,” but no! Sometimes it’s that relaxation that allows for the pleasure to build and for things like squirting to happen more naturally, not forced. So if you’re someone who’s feeling pressure to squirt because you saw it in porn or someone told you that’s what you’re supposed to do—take a deep breath. It’s not the end-all-be-all of pleasure.
[Galya Falkson]
Totally. And sometimes people do experience squirting and it surprises them. They’re like, “What just happened?” So if that’s ever happened to you and you felt embarrassed—know it’s normal. It’s healthy. It doesn’t mean you lost control. It means your body did something it’s capable of doing. And that’s okay.
[Dr. Millie Schweky]
Yeah. And like we said, it’s not necessarily a sign of a better orgasm, or even of orgasm at all. So take the pressure off and focus on connection, sensation, and pleasure. Whether you squirt or not, it’s all valid.
[Galya Falkson]
Yes! You can have deeply satisfying sex without ever squirting. You can squirt without it feeling good. There’s no formula. It’s all about your body, your pleasure, and your choice.
[Dr. Millie Schweky]
That’s right. Alright, that was juicy. I know we could talk about this for hours, but I think that’s a good place to pause for now. We’ll get into more of your questions next time on our Sex Q\&A season.
[Galya Falkson]
Can’t wait!
[Dr. Millie Schweky]
Alright, see you all next time. And remember, whether you squirt or not, you’re not broken, you’re not weird—you’re just human. Bye for now